FIGHT YOUR FEARS!
False, Expectations, Appearing , Real
Many people think that the role of the martial artist is to be without fear, but it's just not true. The role of the modern warrior is to strive to move beyond fear, or at least beyond what fear looks like right now.
Are you afraid of commitment?
Are you worried about communicating well?
Are you anxious about your abilities...or your capacities?
Here are the two biggest fears...and how to approach them.
#1 -----> Fear of Failure.
This is a common and understandable fear. But much of the classroom work you go through in our training is about overcoming your fear - whether fear of being attacked (self-defense), fear of being infirm (physical fitness) or fear of social interactions (partner work).
The fear of failure is one of the biggest blockades to progress that there is: it means that you won't try something new because you might not succeed. In truth, however, the only way to discover something new about yourself or your capacities is to try...and fail. So fight the habit of complacency!
#2 -----> Fear of Success.
Yes, it is possible for you to fear success. What if you try something new...and are great at it? Will it mean that you'll have to take on new responsibilities? New challenges? The pressure to succeed can sometimes be the very thing that pushes us away from trying to do our best. And it can be a common affliction, both on and off the mat.
Worrying that we are not up to the task of success - or that it is not sustainable, or that we might fail after succeeding - is a waste of energy. If it is possible for you to succeed, you may actually be able to help, guide or coach others through their own challenges. It may be an additional responsibility, but a rare chance to help another person - not just yourself.
Excuses come easily, and progress is often hard-won.
The path of the modern warrior is to fight his or her fear - and to do it honestly, courageously and constantly. Become the sort of person who asks themselves questions, instead of just accepting things as they are. Surround yourself with people who will help to push you to the next level of communication, or training, or prosperity.
Shihan Gene Dunn